Does everything change after a wedding?

Once you are married, everything changes. This is the general view on modern marriage. It is not entirely false, but is definitely not accurately true. To put it simply, if you enter into a marriage thinking things will change and expecting things will change... Be sure it will happen. Your life and your marriage is in your hands, and you are responsible. If once married, things unfavourably change; it is because you allowed them to change.

Getting married for the right reasons is first and foremost the most important factor in preventing a big change after a wedding. When a man is at the stage in his life that he feels it is time to get married and he loves his significant other unconditionally, he should also be at the stage in his life where he can share anything with her as they are on a high level of trust and respect. Therefore, having a civilized, grown up and respectful conversation shall squash any potential change, shift or alteration that may begin to arise with their partner.

The view is normally taken from the male perspective that fearfully the woman will let herself go, become more controlling and all of the other characteristics they masked until being able to unleash them once secure. A ring on the finger is not always the be all and end all to the life you previously knew. If a the male opens the door for the woman that he is expecting this and believes it is inevitable to happen, she will quite easily slip into the role expected of her.

The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.

A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he
marries.

Samantha K

extract from eBook draft