Friday 11 May 2012

When ‘Men’ think Women are crazy… and ‘Women’ think Men are stupid.


Hello Gender Conceit!

We have all heard the term “Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus.” I truly dislike this saying. We are both from that little planet called Earth and we need to STOP deeming each other aliens. We are pushing each other into the territory of ‘unknown’, yet we say we wish we could understand the opposite sex.

We all feel obligated to defend our gender; it is part of our self-esteem. Gender conceit is each gender thinking it is basically right, while the opposite gender is basically wrong. Best expressed as, "We're right; they're wrong."  Gender conceit often sees an attack on one's gender as equal to an attack on one's self. Although, repeatedly, the one thing that can be said is that all men are not alike and all women are not alike, people resort to gender bashings as a way to make a point.

“Girl Power!”
“Bro Code!”
Etc…

We hear this every day. We have actually become accustomed to it. We have formed teams and can be very loyal to them. Please do not get confused that one is better than the other! Men and women are denying themselves the opportunity to get to know and understand MOTOS (Members of the opposite sex) by perceiving them as the lesser version of their species.

When trust is absent, relationships are characterized by ‘me vs. you’ or ‘us vs. them’. Have you ever heard a friend go through a nasty break-up and use such extreme generalised statements such as:
“I hate men!”
“Women are nuts and only good for one thing!”
“All men are the same so I am staying away from them all”
“It’s women’s fault I want to stay single”
(My compassion is present and I understand the state of mind in a break-up, this is purely example only)

What is needed is for men and women to bridge the differences between them rather than men being "right" or women being "right." We need to understand the opposite sex. If we approach our relationships from a stand-point of always being "right," we lose harmony, while promoting constant competition.

As I sit in this cafĂ© writing away I happen to hear the women next to me talking about the TV program called “Two and a Half Men”. I actually never thought that women might be offended by this show. However, it got me thinking… that show possesses a very blatant gender specific script. Women are disposable to the highest bidder (Charlie) and women walk over the underdog (Allan). Women are treated like sex objects and that beauty and brains cannot co-exist. I can understand why these women may not like the shows perception of women. However, may I dare to put the shoe on the other foot? The men are made out to be clueless, reliant upon alcohol and status, and have a thick fog of insecurity, no self-worth nor a beaming respect for themselves… being single and unfulfilled against whatever they may say. It is actually a perfect advertisement to my point of gender conceit and the lack of knowledge (and application) of MOTOS.

The game cannot be played without teams; the teams have no purpose without the game. Possess good sportsman ship and keep the game alive!

Samantha K

Thursday 3 May 2012

Dating, Relationships... and the new avenues to love.


Dating and Relationships - Welcome to my world! 

This is what I live for. I live for love. I live for sharing the good and the bad times with my loved ones, friends and even those amazingly lovely people that remind you why it pays to get out there and give others a chance. In the past 12 months, I have met more wonderful and inspiring people than I think I have in most of my life. It is truly astonishing what you discover when you have a shift in your eco-system. When was the last time you stopped... Had a look around... And really took in what this world can offer?


I admit, I have been to a couple of seminars of late, but if you can take in the message of the content, along with finding the secret gems within the audience, it can be a really cool experience. As the majority of the people attending these seminars want to make a difference in their life, or the world, and truly have a purpose in life, it is easy to connect with inspiring figures. It got me thinking... How many people were missing out on this experience?


There are many a people who don't care for self-development and are content with their current situation, and I am not against that at all! But for those people who feel the craving for more in life and desire to fulfill a purpose, I encourage you to get involved, even if it is just for the networking and the people you meet. 


So, what I started to realize is that it is exactly the same in the dating world. Those people who truly put themselves out there, to learn, improve, make mistakes, and go after what they want are the people who are actively successful in relationships, or even friendships alone. I meet amazing people all the time! I connect with people on such a regular basis that I want to share this with those who are looking. I hear people complain all the time that they don't know where to go to meet good men/women, and they generally result to bars and clubs, which they know is not ideal. 


So, I broke it down, bit by bit, and discovered why I could find so many single, available catches so often and my single and looking friends couldn't. It was not because I am married and it's sheer luck that the universe is sending them my way. It was my attitude. It was my desire to learn. It was my openness to meeting new people without judgement or expectations. It was not limiting the scenarios and places I could meet these people. I have met fantastic people everywhere... the train, the supermarket, 50th birthday parties, you name it!


This is why I do what I do. You know all of the amazing people I meet? I keep them close, I keep them so close that I can share them with you. This is where Relationship Rocketscience's dating database began. As a Matchmaker, it is now my job to find and keep all of these wonderful people I meet, and it is the most amazing and fulfilling job I have ever had. As a Relationship Coach, it is my job to make sure you have the skill set to make it a success!



This is also why I have started my events and made them FREE! I know of sooo many seminars and even singles parties that cost you to be a part of. Good! When you pay, you pay attention. But, how do you know you will get your money's worth? You don't... So you don't go. Thats why my events are FREE!


If you connected with this post, and you have that spark inside that you want to light up, you need to come along! This is the first time I am plugging my events and parties in a post, but I am so excited to share this with you and I want to reach all those who want to play!


So... Here are a few deets:

Melbourne event:http://www.relationshiprs.eventbrite.com.au

Sydney event:http://www.relationshiprsyd.eventbrite.com.au

Single & The City Melbourne:http://www.citysingles.eventbrite.com.au


Thank you so much for your support! I hope I get a chance to have fun with all of you at some stage!


Samantha K


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