The danger of judgement and assumption

One can only be judged by ones self and God. It is an unfavourable character trait to walk through life passing judgment, in all respects. Your judgment reveals nothing about the person in question, but reveals a great deal about you.

The same rules apply when it comes to dating and meeting new people. The most effective way to learn about someone new is to greet, listen and converse with limited judgment or assumption, to the best of your ability. As human being we are programmed to make judgment as it serves as a defense mechanism in order to protect ourselves from bad choices. Being alert and aware will never go astray, but some fine tuning with the way in which we rely so heavily on judgments can be life changing.

Judgment must not be confused with intuition or preference. It does not go without saying that the gut feelings are generally right. The same goes with similarities. If you meet a person who closely reminds you of someone you already know, this can be a make or break issue. If negative or hurtful thoughts are associated with this person, it can be very hard to overcome and you need to be serious and honest with yourself whether or not the feelings can be overruled. As much as this is a form of judgment and the new person you meet has no power or control over this, it is important to be fair to both you and them if you cannot look past the reminder of a person, emotion or thought pattern.

It takes a great deal of character to judge a person by their future, rather than their past.

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