The Dating Game - The Player vs. The Pro

It is often that I hear both men and women use the term "Player". It is used to describe a man as a "Pick-Up Artist" who devotes his time to seducing women, using skills and techniques to get women in bed with no intention of a monogamous relationship. If dating is the game, then what do we call the participants, if not players?

As women, we are often hesitant with men if we pick up the scent of a so-called player (depending on our intentions) and proceed with caution. Although, can caution be highlighting the situation, resulting in it becoming more exciting? Have you ever tried to play it better, tried to be the player in the mix, seduce him like a player would, only to arrive at the same result as if you were played? If to be a player is to lead the game, how do you measure the win?

There are so many men out there who want to know how to play the game, to play the game of dating. They want to do so with absolute true intentions of achieving a relationship, but where do they stand... How can they compete? As women, we have a great intuition and have a strong belief that we are a good judge of character, to see the authenticity in a male when he is genuine. Yet, I see so many men, good men, who are fighting to compete with "Players" even though they want to play a different game. 

Men love sport, men love to compete, but the difference with the common sport and the game of dating is that the rules in dating are so unclear and even the criteria to enter a match (a date) is a guessing game. So, where does the incentive lie to sign up as anything but a player? A player need not worry for rejection. A player need not worry about the opinion of the woman. A player needn't worry about so many things as he is not emotionally connected, nor does he have any expectation of a relationship. The Player, becomes a Pro. A Pro, can be an intoxicating lifestyle and is a contributing factor in the forever consistent distance in the battle of the sexes. How does a Pro come to retire, and proceed then through the gates of monogamy with a history (also known to women as the nightmare list of sexual partners that is feared to haunt them at any given moment)? Men become jaded and hesitant by a women who brings into the relationship emotional baggage of break-ups, bad past relationships, etc. So, is the lengthy list of sexual partners paired with a previous reputation the same thing, with a different label? Is this Game Baggage?

For a man looking for a relationship, a serious loving relationship, who does not want to participate in the race to become a Game Pro, where does he start? How does he stand out without seeming desperate or too affectionate? The answer is, in his approach. To channel the right intention, with the right approach is foolproof! Hold tight, the answer in video is coming.... Soon!

Samantha K

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